The Art of Eye Contact

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The Art of Eye Contact

When to avoid it, when to use it to your advantage and when to deceive with it: the rules around eye contact explained…

The Sales Shop

Never, I repeat, NEVER, make eye contact with a fellow Zara sales shopper. This applies to all stores in the season of the sale, but Zara in particular. Women are ruthless, they know what they want and they won’t be afraid to give you puppy-dog eyes if you’ve both got your hands on the same silk patterned shirt in the last size S.

Rule number 1 of sales shopping is that everyone is the enemy, even the distressed-looking toddler that is being dragged over the boyfriend jeans table until his mum finds the last pair in her size. Definitely never look a sales-child in the eyes, they’ll bring out your weak side and before you know it you’ll be offering their mother the £7.99 culottes you’ve wanted for ages and the pin number to your debit card.

(Side tip: it may even be appropriate to bring a whistle and two friends à la Monica, Phoebe and Rachel’s wedding dress shopping trip, but that’s for another post…).

The Holiday

It’s 6.30pm on a warm, calm evening somewhere across the mediterranean. The sun is setting and your outfit looks like you’ve walked off the set of a 1950s Hollywood blockbuster (except the five croissants you shoved down you during the continental breakfast doesn’t quite give you a stomach like Audrey Hepburn… I digress). You get some lone selfies but you and your bf are swept with disappointment when you realise you’ve not got a third person to capture the magical moment.

In such a scenario, they key is to stare down passers by. Avoid anyone with a vague whiff of ‘criminal’ about them (you can usually tell by the type of  sandals they’re wearing) and maintain a steady gaze with a quiet looking middle-aged couple walking hand-in-hand. Chances are, you won’t even have to ask before they head in your direction to see if you’d like them to take a picture of the two of you!

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Disguising Your Deceit

Avoid eye contact in the following scenarios:

  • When you’re lying to someone about how much food you ate yesterday and how well you’re doing in your diet (you don’t want them to see the glint in your eye that that giant vanilla cupcake gave you).
  • Explaining how many hours you actually spend on Insta per day; ‘errrm, you know, I just check it every now and again after I’ve finished work’…
  • Telling your boyfriend that you’ve saved LOADS for your dream holiday… But then spent half of it on a huge Mango order. Looks like you’re going back to the British coast after all…

The Bar

Yes, it may be obvious that you need to maintain eye contact when waiting to be served at the bar, but do you actually carry this out? Not always. Are you instead complimenting the girl next to you on her green and white Monki wrap dress that you ALMOST bought in the sales and are really regretting that you hadn’t? Yes, that’s you.

Forget Insta-scrolling, talking to the friend that’s patiently volunteered to wait with you at the bar, or even trying the chat up the stunning, Gandy-esque model stood breathing the same air next to you. In order for the barman not to approach every other thirsty customer before you, you must retain an unrelenting, fixed gaze on them. The purchase of eye drops may be necessary for such a task, but completely worth it when Gandy comes up to you later asking for your secret to getting a drink so quickly…

The Designer Store

Like many of us, you too probably enjoy a mooch around inexplicably expensive department stores looking at exorbitantly priced handbags (and if you don’t, what do you even do on your shopping trips?!). Yes, you may not even be able to afford a Primark bra right now, but your lack of eye-contact is an attested way to make the sales assistants think ‘you are somebody’…

If, by some unfortunate circumstances, you can’t master the eye-contact game, I suggest finding a friend, clearing a space in your diary and practising for an afternoon. Your lack of skills aren’t worth missing out on the last Zara silk patterned shirt. I assure you.

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What I’m Wearing

Shirt | Laagam, old

Earrings | Jon Richard, here

Head Scarf | Zara, unavailable online

Sunglasses | Chimi Eyewear, here

Bag | Zara, here

Shoes | Shein, old



  1. Elizabeth Seal
    July 30, 2018 / 9:51 pm

    Haha this made me laugh a lot! Such gorgeous photos too, you look beautiful 😀 I need to try that shopping baby hack with my toddler!! xD xx

    elizabeth ♡ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara
    (I would love to follow each other on bloglovin if you like :D)

    • lydiatomlinson
      August 21, 2018 / 5:03 pm

      Hahah I love this! Thank you so much for reading, seriously appreciate it!! xxxx

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