How to be the Sassy Girl

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Sassy, the buzz word of every modern girl’s world, shines a spotlight on the strong, fiercely independent female, putting her as the idol of our aspirations. But what, exactly, defines the ultimate girl of sass, and just how oh how can we steal some of her style?

We live in an age where beauty is fickle, people do anything for fame, and everything is fugitive. Girls are constantly being reminded of man’s conception of attractiveness, and it’s time we took back control and created our own idea of strength. In light of yesterday’s global women’s marches, this post comes at no better time to highlight the power of the strong and sassy female (insert emoji of girl with hair flick and muscly arm). Below are some lessons learnt from the most stylish girls around, condensed into a little, but effective, guide on how to refine your sassy skills.

While unleashing your inner sass-pot may be a daunting notion, we all have it in us to be the Queens of our own lives and strut our stuff in style, because after all…

…Who run the world?

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Lesson 1: style never just refers to the clothes. That’s why I prefer to use it instead of ‘fashion’; the ever-changing, bizarre carousel of clothes that we see change every 6-8 months. No, style is much more of an art form, and it always starts from within.

Let’s start at the very beginning… Confidence is key, as they say. The sassy woman knows she doesn’t have to flaunt her body to attract attention, but rather reels everyone in with her attitude. Take, for example, Amal Clooney in that Stella McCartney suit for her civil ceremony to Mr C in Venice. Covered-up from head to toe, but still oozed the kind of elegance and sophistication that only a girl comfortable in her own Manolos has. While it’s hard to remain self-assured in the turbulent time that is our twenties, be confident in the fact that you do your best, try your best and are your best.

With sass has got to come some class. Take tips from our girl, Coco; ‘a girl should be two things, classy and fabulous’. Cheers to that!

Wait, wait, what about the clothes?! A sprinkle of trends never goes amiss, but never be a slave. The sassy girl embraces fashion but is always ready to pull out her staple wardrobe when the going gets tough. So say hello to the ruffled blouses, leave no cut of jeans unturned, and pull on some pleather… but never turn your back on your trusty camel coat!


As mentioned, one vital component to the sassy girl is her attitude. Determination is her main strength and she doesn’t let anything hold her back. She knows that defeat is part of the learning process, and that you should accept it gracefully and build on it.

Spontaneity is this girl’s middle-name: last minute trip to Paris? Why not! But she knows when enough is enough. Why don’t we go bungee jumping? Don’t be so ludicrous! This girl is no fool.

The sassy girl on intelligence: when studying is over, its all too easy to fall into the trap of trash TV and Daily Mail online. But the sassiest of girls knows that this will never be her. Oh no, she decides that this is the perfect time to dust off some classic novels that she’s never got round to reading, visit the Saatchi instead of Selfridges, whilst realising that the priceless rewards she will reap are worth missing another Kardashians re-run for.

It is always advisable for the sassy girl to carry with her a devilish bout of sarcasm, but she is never nasty with it. Always sharply witty, she never takes herself seriously and is quick to turn the joke on her.

A few more tips and tricks for the sassy girl should follow are listed below:

  • kill them with kindness – never lower to another person’s level, kindness is key
  • respect the rules and then push them – ‘The sign says No Dancing on the Tables, but it doesn’t say anything about the chairs!’
  • avoid the drama; the sassy girl never gets caught up in the drama. Oh no, she listens, respects and rises above. Job done.

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Girls at the Top of the Sass List: Here’s some sassy fodder from the greatest to chew over…

Carrie Bradshaw, ‘when life gets confusing, sometimes there’s only one thing to do… attend a fabulous party’

Bette Davis, ‘I am a woman meant for a man, but I never found a man who could compete’

Sandy from Grease (post transformation), ‘You better shape up, you better understand, to my heart I must be true’

Caroline de Maigret, ‘The Parisian never gives too much away. When it comes to revealing herself, she follows one golden rule: less is definitely more’

Michelle Obama, ‘Success is only meaningful – and enjoyable – if it feels like your own’

Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre ‘I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will’

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What I’m Wearing

Blouse | H&M (not online, similar below)

Jumper | H&M (size S)

Sunglasses | Jewel Boutique, St Tropez (only £18!)

Jeans | Zara (old, similar linked below)

Shoes | Zara, now in sale but not online (similar linked below)

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  1. January 22, 2017 / 10:42 am

    A perfect Sunday morning read, I’m ready to take my sass to the next level this week now! Thanks for sharing, Molly x

    • lydiatomlinson
      January 22, 2017 / 5:21 pm

      aww amazing, thank you so much for reading Molly!! Have a wonderful and very sassy week!! xxxx

  2. lydiatomlinson
    January 22, 2017 / 5:22 pm

    ahhh Adriana, thank you so much for reading and commenting! Hope you have a fabulously sassy week!! xxx

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